This is my first post (and a long one), but I wanted to share my experience. Sense online sports betting became legal in NJ I would place small bets on sporting events. $1 bets on a parlay, maybe $5 or $10 max on a single bet. I would bet a small amount every week. It was money I had in my account and I would never exceed that. This went on for years and then COVID hit. I was let go from my job after 9 years and collecting unemployment satisfied me until about July - right when the extra $600 benefit expired. As a husband with a wife and family I started feeling depressed that I was not providing my family with what I should be. One night I discovered an online casino game, Dream Catcher Wheel, and started playing in July. I went from wagering $0.50 to $1; and when I was down occasionally ramped up to $5 or $10 dollars. Then it started.
As losses accumulated I started wagering more and more. I opened credit cards, took cash advances, over drafted my checking account from July to October, racking up over $40K in debt. I started wagering $50, $100 then $200. Sometimes I would be up $15K, loose it all, wake up the next day and repeat. As a professional in the finance world, it was like what I lost wasn't a reality and the next day was a fresh start. I know I was smarter than this. I would still make sports bets during the period, but I chased the instant reward. I feel like a transformed into another person on the inside, I didn't let this affect my on the outside to others. I was still the same husband and father that I had always been and just wanted the easy way to bring in money for my family. It only takes minutes to gamble thousands. I did it to pay off existing debt, treat the family to vacations, gifts, etc. I did not gamble to be able to my myself something new. I just lost myself in the world of online gambling.
In October I came clean to my wife and our families. I have their support (although I'm sure I will always be labeled with what I did) and would probably not be where I am now a few months later without them. Coming clean was the hardest part. I was ready to leave my house/family/kids because I felt they deserved someone better than me, someone who wouldn't gamble over $40K away that could have been used towards their weddings, college tuition, cars, birthday parties, etc. My kids are under 2 1/2 so they don't know what is going on, but obviously I feel like a failed as a father and husband.
Other than the first week of coming clean I still have been the same husband and father - cooking for the family, cleaning, playing with the kids etc. but now its the mental demons I face with anxiety. I just completed an 8 week therapy program focused around anxiety, panic, depression - including talk of the gambling addiction, which led me to realize I have had anxiety issues for over 20 years, but I was able to hide it.
I know this situation could have been a lot worse than $40K and its just debt I have to repay. I am not at risk to loose my house or family. I have my health and my families health. I will find another job that I love. Although these are positive factors, they negative factors of what I did come to the front of my mind. I can't forgive myself or not want to punish myself or this bad choice that I made. Its important to note that I no longer have a gambling urge, have not gambled sense mid October, however I came here to post this looking for your experiences, comments, suggestions. How can I move forward from this and not constantly think about what I did. I am getting professional help, but hearing from anyone with experience with gambling addictions could end up helping just as much as a professional therapist.
Thank you for your time to read this!
submitted by I (M29) got confirmation on Monday that my wife (F30) is pregnant and that she is filing for divorce this upcoming Monday. She kicked me out of where we were living in NJ and I'm currently staying with my parents in NC. I don't want to get divorced. I want to work it out. I already forgive her.
So backstory: My wife and I were married for over two years back in 2018 when something triggered what I learned to be an autoimmune disease. I was able to take off work and collect short term disability while I was going to doctors in NJ and PA. During this time my health reached a critical point where I couldn't perform basic daily functions. It was difficult on both of us but we both still loved each other dearly and were fighting for each other.
My wife got laid off around the same time and short term disability and vacation pay ran out. She wasn't comfortable with me going back to work and wanted to try doctors somewhere else. Somewhere else was NC. My parents lived in NC. I resisted a little but eventually gave in and we moved in with my parents for what was supposed to be temporarily.
The living conditions were supposed to be very short term but they were very difficult. My wife and daughter ended up sharing a twin bed while I slept on a couch. She ended up getting a part time job working $11/hr and was working overnights. This put a lot of stress on our relationship and communication broke down. My sister (35) and her daughter also lived at my parents and started feeding seeds of doubt into my wife's head, telling her we shouldn't be together.
Due to having to move I quit my job in NJ. When in NC I tried to apply for unemployment and insurance but the state kept messing up paperwork and giving me the run around. Our finances plummeted and so did my mind. I became crippled with depression and disease and couldn't come out of it without a push. My wife was also depressed and neither of us could be the rock the other needed.
9 months later we learned that my wives grandma needed help because she had an upcoming surgery. I was starting to learn how to deal with my disease and depression and we moved back to NJ to help. We were so excited that things might finally change!
Three problems- The seed of doubt was sown. The house was small and we still couldn't sleep in the same bed. No one would hire me.
This continued to put stress on our relationship, I fell back into depression and struggled. My health was manageable but my mental state wasn't. My turned to friends for guidance and they agreed she needed a ladies night out. I was supportive of this and pushed her to go. They went to the casinos but, her friends also invited an old male friend of my wife from Boston. In a moment of drunkenness and weakness she had sex with him and became pregnant.
She started to beat herself up. Started going to therapy (for which I thought was for her depression) and was so embarrassed that she couldn't confess to me. A few months in (after CoVid started) I noticed something was up, something different. I pried for answers but she wouldn't give them to me, she was closing up, I tried and tried to get her to talk to me and she didn't. I refused to spy on her and gave her the benefit of the doubt. We were only truly intimate twice after this moment. Later on she put on the baby weight and I knew what happened. I kept giving her opportunities to tell me but she didn't. At first I was mad but eventually forgave her.
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submitted by So yeah, I threw a TON of shade at our
Frigid Ape friends last week (but maybe not as much as I did at Meg White - but she deserves it. She knows what she did.) So if you had not guessed it already, this week we will focus on Alex Turner and some other guys. Yes, you might say that we have come crawling back to them. I even contemplated telephoning them after I was imbibing.
Yes, I only made that call while I was somewhat elevated.
It is rumored that these
Wintry Orangutans may have established a taco-exporting lunar base (it actually had a high local Yelp rating, or so I’ve heard). Yes, these
Chilled Hominids are our focus. They have 7 Brit Awards and 6 studio albums. (Side note:
Robbie Williams has 18 Brit Awards so I’m pretty sure you can buy them at the airport kiosk.) They also, according to reliable sources, appear handsome on surfaces upon which you rhythmically gyrate.
They are this week’s
featured artist. About Them One of the defining characteristics of JHo and the Boys can also be found with this group of
Frosty Baboons: They never make the same record twice. Consequently, they are tough to define. They are a mash-up of influences and styles and each new album veers off in wildly different directions. Are you dressed up in a jean jacket with lots of buttons? You’ll love their sometimes Indie vibe. Just smoked a bowl? Yep, they have that desert groove. Feel like a night out with the lads? Their earlier, more up-tempo stuff is for you. Thinking more Billy Joel/Elton John? Yes, they have piano-based music. Want hip-hop?
Screw you, I did the
Run the Jewels post already. Go back there.
These
Bitter Mandrils hail from Sheffield, England. The band was formed in 2002 between a group of close friends. They initially had Andy Nicholson on bass, but after a series of conflicts on a North American tour, he got the boot. His replacement was
Yellam’o Salochin - or as he’s better known, Nicholas O’Malley. The other core members of the band are Jamie Cook on guitar, Matt Helders on drums, and the one and only Alex Turner on just about everything (but most typically the microphone).
Although initially lacking in confidence, Turner would soon be pushed to the front of the band for his way with words. The reason for this would eventually become clear, as Turner revealed in 2013 that all band members
are actually Alex Turner. Lets not deal with that
Game of Thrones-esque plot twist yet though.
Stylistically, these guys are about as British as they come. You know how when people from England sing, they almost always sound like they have no accent? Turner is the exception. No, I don’t mean that he’s like
John Lydon from The Sex Pistols, because part of that band’s rebellion was to sound quintessentially British instead of like manufactured pop. And no, I don’t mean that he is like
Liam Gallagher from Oasis, because let’s face it, that guy barely sings anyway.
In his early work, Turner decided to double-down on his roots and perform his songs with his regional dialect. You can literally hear the Sheffield twang in his music, and the band would exemplify this British charm in all the tracks leading up to their first album.
After much practice, and several gigs, the band recorded some demos and began handing them out for free at their concerts. This eighteen song collection, dubbed
Beneath the Boardwalk, would garner them a fair bit of fame, and was soon popping up on various file sharing and social media websites. That’s right. The number one lesson you need to take away from this is: if you want to get famous,
MySpace is the way (even though they didn't even make their own page).
Soon they released an EP named
Five Minutes with Arctic Monkeys on their own label. The success of this led to them playing the Reading and Leeds festival, where they drew an unusually large crowd for such an “unknown” band. In 2005 they signed with Domino Records, and released their debut single
I Bet You Look Good on the Dancefloor to great success, reaching No. 1 on the UK singles chart.
By September of the same year, the band’s first album,
Whatever People Say I am, That’s What I’m Not was done. Upon release, it became the fastest selling debut album in UK history, with over 360,000 copies sold in the first week.
This album was (and still is) the epitome of British indie punk, and is pretty much the national anthem of North England night clubbers. No, not that kind of
clubbers - clearly, I mean something more like
this. After this album, and a few singles / short EPs,
“Who The Fuck Are Arctic Monkeys?” was the question on everyone’s mind.
This was answered in the release of their
follow up album,
Favourite Worst Nightmare (2007), which also hit No. 1 on the charts shortly after release. Much like it’s predecessor, it drips with Sheffield character, but in a slightly different manner. The song writing on this record gives a range between blistering speed and raw emotion. Tracks like
Do Me a Favour and
505 demonstrate prowess and dexterity in Turner’s writing, and hinted at darker, more serious tones for the band’s future.
This came to fruition on what some may view as the band’s most important record:
Humbug (2009). Our boy Josh took the young lads under his wing, producing and co-writing
this album in the one and only Rancho de la Luna. When you listen to it, it shows. This record is dark, moody, and full of beautifully weird metaphors and winding riffs. There is still a good amount of energy in this album, seen in tracks like
Pretty Visitors, but the dark moody undertones of the desert are strongly on display in songs like
The Jeweller’s Hands and
My Propeller. All in all, this album was one that saw an amazing level of evolution in the band’s song writing (and I swear, all that Josh touches turns to
gold.)
Oh and this album also soared to No.1 on release. Go figure.
A few years later, they released the album
Suck It and See (2011), a record that was
a pure ray of sunshine compared to Humbug. The album features a considerably lighter sound, not that it lacks that signature Turner flair, but the tracks generally lean towards a slightly more accessible sound. All in all, it’s still a great album, and an important step in their musical development. Also, please expect to see somebody write a 4 page essay on why
Brick By Brick is the best song they have ever written over on their subreddit by next week.
Oh and it also reached No.1 on release. Noticing a trend maybe?
Anyway, these
Glacial Lemurs then released that
squiggles album in 2013. It became
marginally popular. Something something also reached No. 1, something something popular in America, something something Alex Turner’s greaser haircut was SO cool and I want it back. It is also worth noting that our boy Ginger Elvis made a cameo on this record (so I mean, it’s gotta be cool).
Moving on, their most recent album saw Turner embark on a Taco-Powered mission to the Moon.
Tranquility Base Hotel & Casino (2018) was originally going to be released as a Turner solo album. However, upon hearing it, his band mates decided to join in and make it into a fully fledged
Numb Chimpanzees record. Moon-Tacos can be persuasive.
This album is chock full of alluring and idiosyncratic lyrics that conjure up wonderfully unique aesthetics. It has a laid back, piano-centric melancholy feel that is found nowhere else in their discography. It is so different from their previous albums that many have mixed views on it, but in my opinion, it’s the ultimate grower - I only started enjoying it on maybe the 5th listen. Overall I give it a solid 80% (unheard of, I know!)
Oh and of course, it also hit No. 1.
And notice how I never returned to that
Game of Thrones Plot twist? Yep, just like the final season. No, I am not bitter...why do you ask?
That puts a neat bow on their discography, give or take their numerous B-Sides, which are a whole other rabbit hole. I have also neglected some other important Alex Turner records, such as Submarine (his only solo album) and both albums by The Last Shadow Puppets, which are also important stylistic stepping stones for the band. This also explains why Alex Turner’s shoulders are so strong, since he has to carry Miles Kane’s career on both of these records.
All in all, Turner is also a lot like our very own
Baby Duck in that he has done multiple projects with multiple artists above and beyond his core band. A self-described “control freak” and reluctant frontman - yet he seems possessed by a desire to constantly explore, create and collaborate on new music.
There’s nothing quite like these Arctic Monkeys, even if their name is really easy to mess up.
Links to QOTSA Queens of the Stone Age and our featured
Polar Simians first met at a rather disappointing gig in
Houston in 2007. Josh described them as a
”down-to-earth, earnest group of people that grew up together and somehow made a bubble to protect themselves from the explosion that is their band.” He also remarked that,
”They’ve been playing this most dangerous game of changing every record and reaching like a rock climber for the next grip.” It is clear that Josh saw his own musical journey reflected in the band, so much so that Homme co-produced and co-wrote their 2009 third studio album,
Humbug. That album was recorded in large part out at Rancho de la Luna. Queens have even done a
cover version of
Why’d You Only Call Me When You’re High? Alex Turner did guest vocals on
If I Had a Tail. Josh reciprocated by doing guest vocals on
Knee Socks. During the recording of
AM, Turner said of Josh:
”He came down and sort of got us out of a little rut. It’s just fun, it’s friends, extended family now...His contribution to our record is really exciting, it’s probably my favourite.” Josh has stated about Turner that
”he has a special gift for the gab” and that Matt Helders is
”one of the best drummers in rock ‘n’ roll.” Helders joined Josh, Dean Fertita and Iggy Pop to record
Post Pop Depression at Rancho de la Luna in 2015.
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